But I m reading some articles, especially those with substance. One article quoted from the court documented testimony of Cosby himself, wherein he details his "seduction" techniques. He said, quoting from the deposition, on the question of consent, "I think I'm a pretty decent reader of people and their emotions in these romantic sexual things."
At that point I said to myself, "Yep. He did it. He did it all. No longer any question in my mind whatsoever."
Sexual predators (wolves) are very good at identifying and selecting the lambs among us: the women who are low in assertiveness, who are eager to please, who are cowed by authority, who are afraid of male power, who are impressed by success, who are unlikely to cause trouble. They scent blood, they know who they can attack.
Secondly, in sexual matters, I am very well aware that men thinking with the wrong end always think that women want whatever they want them to want. In my dating days I got so sick and tired of fighting off men who informed me that "You want it. You know you want it", no matter how loudly and angrily and definitely I said no, stop, go away. Hands up, Ladies --- how many times have you heard "You want it, you know you want it"?
The line I heard more times than I can count, from different men in different areas, in exactly the same words, which made me wonder whether it was born in male minds, was "You can't walk around looking like that and not want it all the time!"
Huh? I've always dressed rather modestly. But even a mother Hubbard can't hide a big bust. I guess that's what they meant?
So, yeah, Mr. Cosby. I'll bet you believed you were a "pretty decent reader of people and their emotions". Too bad it was all coming out of your own mind and applied to others, without bothering to actually ask.
On the subject of consent, men claim to be confused as to what it means, when do you have to get a verbal yes, when can a no mean yes, whatever it is that their testosterone-fueled minds can't quite grasp. A woman has written an excellent illustration of exactly what consent or lack thereof means, that even the densest should understand:
It's short and amusing.