The kids left for Pennsylvania this morning, to visit Hercules' folks. Returning late tomorrow.
The temperature was 75 F at 9:30 this morning, but it's very sunny and humid, so it feels hotter. Supposed to get into the 80s. I've finally turned the A/C on.
I've got a van to unload, bookcases to assemble, acres of laundry piles, and a drift of paper and photographs to sort and file, so I'll appreciate the uninterrupted alone time. Naturally, I've brought papers down from the country house, but but not yet the file cabinets. I'm using those brown accordion folders.
I found a large box of vacation photos in the country house den closet. Not MY vacations - Jay and his ex-wife's vacations. I started to throw them away, and then reconsidered. I know where she lives. So on my way back, I stopped at her house in the village and dropped them off with her boyfriend. I'm glad she wasn't home, because I really didn't want to talk with her, but I do feel virtuous about giving her the photos. (Even though when she and Jay split, she took every photo she could find, and Jay had to beg for some of the negatives. Yeah, residual bitterness. She knew they were important to him and it did crush him. He was a shutterbug.)
Google "Steve Crecelius". Stories all over the internet about him/her. I guess there's a dearth of real news. Or maybe it's just that sensationalism sells advertising. When I read the first story (Yahoo front page), it annoyed me so much I searched around to find a REAL story that didn't appeal to the ignorant. Doesn't exist.
He was in his forties, I think, father of six children, and discovered from a kidney ultrasound five years ago that he had ovaries, in addition to the usual male equipment. The headlines say he discovered he's actually a woman!.
Um, no. He's a man who also has ovaries and therefore estrogen, in addition to the testes and testosterone. There's no uterus or vagina, although the estrogen did cause small breasts. Otherwise he has all the usual secondary male sexual characteristics, like a beard, and he's attracted to women.
But he has decided he's actually a woman!, since as a child he enjoyed playing with his mother's makeup (lots of little boys do), likes dresses, and he "walks like a girl". Um, a girl walks like a girl because she has wider hips, and has been culturally conditioned to walk that way. You, Steve/Stevie, do not have a girl's hips, you are still not a girl. You just have some extraneous ovaries kicking out estrogen that confuses your head. Let's not forget that the testes and everything that goes with them works just fine. If you're confused, have the ovaries removed. You obviously don't need them.
His wife took him shopping for his first bra. (Another forehead dent in my desk.) Steve, you've gone all your life without a bra. You don't need one now. Even REAL women don't need bras to be women.
The male/female classifications are not black and white. 100% male and 100% female are extreme ends of a spectrum. There are many gradations, many combinations of accoutrements, and many physical and hormonal reasons for them. Something like 1 in 10 babies are born somewhere on that scale other than the extremes (probably more, it's just not immediately obvious). Wikipedia has a good article on it (intersex). Most people fall somewhere close to one end or the other. I for example, are high in androgens, and have what is medically termed clitoral hypertrophy (clitoromegaly), although not freakishly so, nothing to write home about. I'm just well beyond the norms. But there's never been any question that I'm completely female.
Oh my God! I mostly don't wear makeup, I've never liked makeup, wear it out socially only because it's expected and a sexual advantage in attracting male attention. I don't especially like dresses and skirts, prefer pants, but wear "feminine" things, again because it's expected and a sexual lure. I really do like attracting men. But ... Holy Crap! According to Steve/Stevie's logic, I'm actually a man!
So stop calling me Silk. I'm really Sylvester.
(Heh. I can't wait until Steve hits menopause and the estrogen wanes. How silly is he going to feel then?)
Yeah, I know that there are men who go through sexual reassignment surgery to become women, but are still attracted to women. Yeah, I know it's all mixed up, both physical manifestations and psychological. But Steve's case is different, in my opinion, in that he never "felt like a woman trapped in a man's body". Never felt homosexual. He just had a slightly feminizing influence from more estrogen than is usual in males.