Over the past 15 years I have been able to locate a lot of my classmates from high school and college --- the MALE classmates. I have been able to locate only three old female classmates --- one who never married, and two that I know who they married.
Women who change their name when they marry get lost. They get cut off from the past.
I don't understand why young women today still change their name. Unless they want to hide from the past, it no longer makes any sense at all. You'd think there'd be a movement among socially aware young women to maintain their own identity.
I don't understand.
There used to be a time when it didn't matter, because women had no identity of their own. Their identity was solely based on who their father was, or who their husband was. (Who owned them, basically.) Their world was very small, circumscribed by men. Men put their stamps on them. That's the time that this name-change custom came from.
Girls --- marry. But keep your birth name. If your future husband doesn't like that, maybe you should ask him why before marrying him. Better yet, if he wants that both of you have the same name, propose that HE change his name to yours (it's just as easily done), and if he reacts with horror, ask him to explain why that's such an awful idea, then maybe he'll understand.